Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Why is it that as mother's we are constantly having to justify our decisions??
Everyone and every baby is different. I think we all get that right? So why is it that people (family, friends, strangers) feel the need to tell us their opinions? I'll be the first to admit that I am new to this mothering thing and that it is crazy hard and I don't know what I'm doing for a hot second. But...that does not mean Mrs. Stranger in Target that I care what you think about me not breastfeeding my baby anymore or when my baby should nap. Sounds bad but I don't give a what.
When a stopped breastfeeding that is when I swear everyone started to ask me about it. I chose to stop because that is what I felt was best for me and my family. So again, why Mrs. Stranger in Target, why, why do you care so much? Why am I standing in the middle of Target with my itty bitty baby explaining my boobs and what is being expressed from them to you? And yes back in the 70's, 80's and even 90's you did the rice cereal thing from a bottle. That's great. I chose not to do that. Don't look at me like I'm cray cray.
When I am having to justify daycare decision to a man with no kids just drives me insane. I picked who I have picked for a daycare provider because I trust her, C likes her and I (and my husband) think she does a good job. But again why do I have to explain this to you? This all goes back to my post about family. As a family this is a decision we have chosen and why am I being questioned about it?
I try to not express my opinions or what we do in the E household onto my friends with babies unless they specifically ask for my advice. I think that could ruin a friendship very quickly. There are obviously some friends that I feel more comfortable talking and telling things too but I do know the ones that will take things wrong so I just don't go there. It's not worth losing a friend over and who is to say that my opinion or what we are doing in the E house will work for them.
I have thought these things for a while now and just decided to write about them for girls who are pregnant now or are going through the same thing. For the most part people have butt out as my babe is getting older but I still have those random Target ladies telling me hoe to raise my child.