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Monday, May 21, 2012

My Raw Thoughts ::Adoption::

There is something that you don't know about me...
I am adopted.
Yep, adopted.
To be honest the thought never really even crosses my mind. 
 What made me think about adoption recently was
Mandy's from the House of Rose blogs announcement.
 They are in the process of adopting, and I think that is amazing!
Again, I want to send a bit congrats to Mandy and her family.

When I tell people I am adopted I get the strangest responses.
 From "oh I'm sorry"
 to "but why? "
"are you okay with it?"
"so were you an orphan?"
I laugh at these questions, because really people, I am just like you,
 and no I was not an orphan, and why in the world are you sorry for me?
I love my family and wouldn't want to change my life for anything,
yes I am ok with it, what could I do about it anyways?


 From what I hear a lot of adopted people have issues with the fact that they are adopted.
I find that very bizarre and don't really understand it.
Maybe it's because I had a great childhood,
don't feel that I missed out on anything, have very supportive parents,
 and overall am thankful for being adopted.
God picked these people for me and I trust in him that he has placed me with me these parents for a reason.
I don't question it or even second guess it.
My parents loved me like I was their own.
I never ever have felt like I was not part of my adopted family.


And no, I don't have any desire to meet my birth parents.
 Most people don't understand that and think I am crazy that I have no desire
to see the people who created me.
But you know what, if they wanted to find me, with technology these days,
 I doubt they would have much of a problem.
 People think I should find them to ask them about my medical history.
 Again, not really sure why so many people are so adamant that
 I find MY birth parents but they are.
Well, knowing that someone in my family had cancer or another diseases is going to do what for me?
People who know who their birth parents are and know their medical history
still could come down with medical issues.
So I don't find it that big a deal, I go the the doctor regularly and get check ups and that's all I can do.


But don't you want to know what they look like?
This is probably my favorite questions, and again, don't know why everyone is so concerned,
but you know what...they look like me...duh?!
So no, I don't really feel the need to go on a full hunt just to see these strangers appearances,
I can just look in the mirror and get a good idea of what they look like.
 Don't get me wrong, I have thought about what it would be like to find my birth parents.
But you know what?
What if they are cracked out loonies who I have now exposed myself and my family too?
What if they just want to suck the life out of me and my good heart?
 What if I open Pandora's box.  
Its an all or nothing type of situation.
 You cant just look at them from a far and decide to dive in.
So, maybe you get lucky and you get the same together family that welcomes me with open arms and love,
or you get the money sucking bat shit crazy family that is nothing but troubles and heart breaks.
No thanks,
I am not into taking risks, especially this one.
 I have a family already who loves me and my adorable son,
I don't want to take any chances especially now that I have my own precious family who I want to protect.

Many people find my views of adoption harsh, but hey what can I say....this is how I feel.

8 comments:

Mandy Rose said...

I think this post was awesome! Being adopted is a gift! I love hearing your view! Xoxo

Libby's Life said...

I am adopted too! And I totally get the same questions when people hear that I am adopted. I did find my birth mother at 18 because it was something I needed for myself but I totally understand your point of view too. I love my parents more than anything in this world & they were the people that I was meant to be with! God knew what he was doing when he put me into my family! It's definitely difficult when you have medical issues though which I have had quite a few since I've become an adult & that is the only thing that sucks about being adopted, not knowing my medical history! But I would not change being adopted for anything, it is a gift to all people involved.

The Java Mama said...

Terence was adopted too at the age of 4 and that is pretty much how he feels about the whole thing....his birth mom found him at the age of 18 on her death bed and they met. He was able to find out some things, but his family is his family and he has no desire to dig any deeper than that. Being adopted was such a blessing for him and it's an amazing gift for a child if you are able to do it!

REBrown said...

I think I would feel the same way if I was adopted. Why would you want to potentially open the door to mess up such a good thing?

Mrs. Kee said...

I really loved this post. Your point of view was really interesting and great to hear. Adoption is on our hearts for the future so reading things like this is always interesting to me. Have you ever considered adopting a child?

Nikell said...

Great post! I love your take on it. I don't think it's odd at all (^_^)

Lauren said...

I'm catching up on blogs here!...But when people ask those kind of questions i think that sounds completely ignorant...You are doing exactly what you should do, what you think is right for your family, like you said-now that you have your son, you are protecting him, and even your parents that you have now-your whole family. if you aren't curious then no one else needs to be either! Love this post!

Holly said...

I found your blog on the vintage apple. My ex husband is adopted and so is his sister. Some of the questions they have been asked is crazy. My daughters have some questions, now that they are older, about their biological grandparents but for the most part they just don't care. They have grandparents that love them and that is all that matters.