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Tuesday, August 6, 2013

My Thoughts::Post Partum Body::

With Pinterest, Instagram and blogging,
it is so easy to fall into the mindset that all of these
women we follow have perfect and amazing lives.
With their Tory Burch shoes, LV bags, and skinny bodies to boot,
they seem like they have it all.
I know better, and you know better, that through all that stuff these
Mama's struggle just like the rest of us.
 
With only 8 weeks left until we meet our sweet baby boy I can't help
to think of the lovely and dreaded post partum body.
It's not pretty, its saggy, its cottage cheese looking, floppy, and just down right frightening.
But, we all go through it.
For the sake of our children.
The sweet, sweet baby is 100% worth it and motherhood is one of the biggest blessings God can give you.
 
Once all the hospital hype is over and you are back in your own homes and into reality, there is a tendency to feel like you are the only one who have these sorry bodies.
That no one understands.
To stand in front of the mirror before showering can hurt you heart.
The thought of your husband to see you with no clothes on is scary.
Your body is never the same and you may think that it will never go back.
 
 
Even the ones we are closets too make comments on our bodies and how we "better get back into shape" and "don't let yourself go" and "your husband wants you to keep yourself together, he remembers the woman he married, not this", "you know you need to get the weight off", "the longer you keep the weight on the harder it will be to get off". 
Its hurtful, its sad and guess what....
You know all of these things, you are your own worst critique so by someone else telling you, it is just down right hurtful.
You just had a baby.
The miracle of life just came out of you, and you need the time to adjust to not housing a baby in your belly.
He did live in there for 10 months ya know.
 
What is important to you now should be keeping yourself together and a baby alive.
The weight will be here and will be constantly nagging at you.
So by someone else telling  and reminding you is painful.
 
So even if you are thinking that you need to speak up and tell a post partum Mama your personal thoughts on getting the weight off, hold off.
She is sensitive and already knows.
You will not be telling her something new and mind blowing.
Leave her be and let her snuggle her sweet baby while she can.
 
Before you know it, she will have a better body than you, and for which you can smile and be happy for her, because you know how hard her life has been for the past year.

1 comment:

Jaclyn @ Haute Granola said...

You're right on so many levels. When E was born last September I put A LOT of pressure on myself to snap back fast.

It didn't happen.

It's taken a lot of time, and now...just weeks shy of her 1st birthday am I finishing snapping back. My advice to new moms is to not stress over it. If you work at it, it goes back eventually.

I'm now happy to say that I'm actually stronger and more appreciative of my body after having seen it go through pregnancy, childbirth AND bouncing back.